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My 1990 Jeep Comanche is a beauty–but it will not move. It has air in the tires, gasoline in the tank, and everything it needs for a road trip. The engine is sound, but it still will not start. Why? Because the battery is drained. At times, we can appear ready–even capable–yet still lack the energy to take the next step. In life, we are much like vehicles. Our thoughts can drain us. Like a drained battery, negative thinking can leave us unable to function, even when everything on the outside appears fine. In Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), we understand that our thoughts influence our emotions, and together they guide our behavior–shaping how we move through life.

The Frame

Similar to the frame of a vehicle, our body is the structure that holds everything together. Yet stress and distorted thinking place strain on that structure, affecting our overall health. Caring for both body and mind creates the stability needed to face life with greater ease and resilience. Proverbs 23:7 echoes a CBT principle: “As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.” What we allow to take root in our minds eventually shapes how we feel, how we respond, and how we live.

The Tires

Just as the frame needs support, the tires require balance. Too little air, and they go flat. Too much, and they become overinflated–stiff, fragile, and ready to burst.

The same is true for us. When we are underinflated–when we lack rest or self-care–we feel depleted. Everything takes more effort. Even small tasks feel heavy. A single bump in the road–a disagreement or a stressful moment–can throw us off course.

On the other hand, when we are overinflated–when we push too hard or think too far ahead–we fill our minds with pressure and unrealistic expectations. Then, in an instant, something small–a frustration, a delayed plan, or a difficult conversation–causes us to “burst.” That is why Romans 12:2 encourages us to “be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” Renewal is not a one-time fix. It is ongoing care that requires intentional effort.

Curves in the Road

Even with that care, there will still be curves in the road and things outside our control. Someone may pull out in front of you or cut you off. In a conversation, tension may rise.

Words may come out too quickly. Voices may elevate. What began as a small irritation can become a full conflict that feels like hitting a pothole at full speed.

If we slow down, we may catch it early. But if we do not pause, breathe, and adjust, we can lose our sense of direction. Once that happens, every turn takes more effort. The car is still moving forward, but the ride becomes far more difficult than it should be.

The same is true when we let our emotions go unchecked. We grip the wheel tighter, trying to regain control. Or, in fear we overcorrect and crash.

Instead of traveling steadily, every moment becomes a struggle. Yet there is another option. If we pause, take the thought captive, and challenge it, we can respond differently. We can communicate instead of escalate. We can redirect instead of react. We can continue without damaging the “vehicle.”

The Fuel

Most people go to great lengths to maintain their car–oil changes, tire rotations, premium services–for a vehicle that is temporary, while neglecting the body that carries us through life and houses our soul. Our body is not separate from our path–it is part of the vessel we have been entrusted with.

For this reason, we are called to care for ourselves through rest, nourishment, and meaningful engagement so we can continue to fulfill our purpose. Still, even a well-maintained vehicle needs fuel. Without it, nothing moves. In the same way, rest and self-care matter, but they are not the whole story. Unlike a car, we are powered by something deeper. There is a difference between running on empty and being filled by something greater. Faith kindles hope and is the source of purpose that enables us to persevere when the road is difficult.

Restoration

Life is certainly not a Sunday afternoon drive through the countryside. It is filled with disruptions and detours as we make our way toward our destination. Yet we can keep going. We can address problems before they become wrecks, because life is not simply about traveling from one point to the next–it is about knowing where you are headed.

King David wrote in the Psalms, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” For those of you who are heartbroken, who feel beyond repair, wrecked–or even totaled–you are not a vehicle. No matter how many miles you have traveled or how beaten down you have become on this path called life, your value has not diminished. No matter how much mud and muck cling to your earthly frame, your worth remains unchanged. And if you find yourself stuck in a deep emotional rut, needing a tow–there is still hope. Renewal is still possible. LOOK UP!

Byline: Dr. Kelly Bushéy is a psychologist, motivational speaker and founder of Dr. Kelly, LLC. She is a native of Ossineke, Michigan, she earned her Ph.D. in Psychology from Northcentral University and now travels nationally and internationally as a speaker. Dr. Kelly brings together clinical expertise, evidence-based research, and faith-informed insight to explore the deeper patterns behind human behavior and offers practical tools for growth, resilience, and well-being.